Live for today
My fellow citizens, my countrymen and women, brothers and sisters, males and females, children, lend me your ears. I was young and now I am old, and I am privileged to learn, life experiences have taught me that the past cannot be changed. We look back and we wonder about what might have been if we had done things differently, take another road. But things happen the way they did because they deliver you sound on this side. Things happened the way they did, and just maybe God was working in your favour. Use this opportunity to thank God for taking us here, for just maybe if we had taken another road, we would not be here today. We can look back if we may, but not desirous of going back there. Life goes on, it moves forward, so we must appreciate the past for what it was, a life shaper and live in the now.
Other’s opinions is not our Reality
I have learned that we should never let people’s opinions of us define our reality, who we are and what we will become. It must be our utility, what we do and say that defines us. Yet despite this knowledge, this powerful reality, we still allow others dictum to define us. “The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts” (Prov. 16: 8; 26: 22). Why are we so hung up with what people say about us though? If people love each other, if we love as God loves, would we spread evil things about others, critique, cut them behind their backs? Every person has experienced the hurt of gossip at some point in our lives. And most if not all are guilty of this negative activity. Whether when we speak we did not mean direct mischief, always the result of chinwag is broken trust and wounded spirits. “The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit” (Prov. 15: 4). Jabber can be defined as information about the behaviour or personal life of people we know, often about our friends, without the full truth revealed or known. In His Words God warns that we stay away from people who gossip and to guard our words when we speak about others!
Tame the Tongue
But its hard thing to tame the tongue. “Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell” (James 3: 5-7). Scripture also uses the word (slander) or defamation which means making a false spoken statement damaging to a person’s reputation. We do this with such ease that it becomes part of us. Yet slander can destroy someone’s reputation, their marriage, job, prosperity, and even wreck families. The tongue has the power to kill and give life, and we must be careful with how we use our words. “You who practise deceit, your tongue plots destruction; it is like a sharpened razor” (Psa. 52: 2). The Bible tells us what words we should speak and which we should not. If we are struggling with gossip or know someone who gossips a lot, study the sections of the Bible that advised on gossip and choose to help put a stop to it. The best thing though is if you hear them, stop them, and tell them you don’t want them to assassinate the brother/sister you love. Why should it matter what people say? Gossip is damaging to the teller as well as the one who hears it. You start to see them in a negative light and their image is tainted forever. However, as bad as it may be, we should never allow what is said of us to shape us, nor determine our future?
Same journey, different experiences
Woody Allen said, “Men learn to love the woman they are attracted to. Women learn to become attracted to the man they fall in love with”. That every man and woman Journeys toward a goal in their life’s but with different experiences and see things from different perspectives. There are some things we both, males and females share, but a man and woman cannot understand why the opposite sex cannot see things the same way. ‘Men are from Mars, women are from Venus’ is a phrase we often use to explain the differences between us. So many spend time trying to change each other either to their point of view or to what the other should be. Barbara Streisand asked, “Why does a woman work ten years to change a man, then complain he’s not the man she married?” I suppose this may require an answer, but not necessarily so, we all want something unique to us. Yet the truth is as someone once remarked, “Behind every great man, there is a great woman”. Many men become great because of the help and support of his woman. A man was made to need a woman and vice versa, we cannot live without each other.
Don’t give up – Don’t give in – Don’t go under – Don’t let go!
Things always get better with time, if we are patient to wait. I am old enough to know. The judgements we pass on others are a confession and testament of our own character, our own weaknesses and failures. So tame the tongue, we should make the effort to say good things about other people. For life is simple, but we complicate it by our many business concerns and dabbling in other people’s affairs? So get a grip, maybe some needs a suitcase to go.
Likewise, overthinking matters will lead to stress and sadness, but remember the power of positive thinking. As positive thoughts create positive experiences, live in the celebration mood and rent a room on Positive Avenue.
We must learn the lessons of life well, we cannot please everyone, nor should we try to, so we must please ourselves. And we should make the effort not to value people on the basis of their material wealth, the strength of their bank account because if we do, it is a testimony to our spiritual bankruptcy. When we die, we cannot take wealth with us, money may preserve life, getting the best doctors, medication etc. but when we go it cannot buy life back. Comfort and joy that comes from money, that wealth and goal do not last, only what is done for Christ will last, He is forever. True happiness is from within, not from without, material things are momentary, but love, joy and peace are contagious, but hate kills,
Remember that goes around comes around, whatever you do to others will return to you, whether love or hate. Nobody said the race of life would be easy, and you only fail if you quit the race. Get up brothers and sisters – Stand up and take your rightful place in the world. “You will be twice defeated in the race of life” (Marcus Garvey) if you fail to see. Don’t give up – Don’t give in – Don’t go under – Don’t let go!